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What is There to be Thankful for in Your Stepfamily?
And, how many of us get caught up in the whining and complaining about exes, our kids' other stepparent, and all of the challenges that stepfamily life can bring? I'm guilty! Especially in the early years of my remarriage, I complained, got angry, and I'm sure I drove my friends and family nuts on many days. And, even now having been remarried for nearly eight years, I still have my moments.
In hindsight, I feel like I have wasted valuable time and energy simmering in a stew of negative feelings. I wish I had read books, including 365 Thank Yous and Jack Canfield's The Success Principles, years ago. In his book, Canfield writes, "When you are in a state of appreciation and gratitude, you are in a state of abundance. You are appreciating what you do have instead of focusing on and complaining about what you don't have."
So, turning back to remarriage and stepfamily life, for what is there to be grateful? As a start, how about:
- the opportunity to learn about your own strengths and weaknesses?
- the chance to learn more about love and its many forms?
- a second chance for true happiness after experiencing divorce or widowhood?
- learning how to appreciate others?
- developing healthy coping mechanisms?
- the ability to be a positive influence in a young person's life?
In The Success Principles, Canfield explains that there are three different kinds of appreciation. He describes three different ways (auditory, visual, and kinesthetic) "the brain takes in information, and everybody has a dominant type they prefer."
So, every day we can strive to appreciate the people in our family in the way that makes them feel good. We can hug one of our stepchildren who responds to touch. We can call one of our kids who is away at college to find out how they are doing, and we can write a note telling our spouse how much we appreciate what they do.
The things that we grumble about may still be there. But, if we follow John Kralik's example, we'll actually feel happier. Thank goodness for that!
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