Reader writes:  My two sons will be 21 and 19 when I get remarried. Both would make great groomsmen, but I don't want either of them to feel put out if I don't ask them to be my best man. Any suggestions?  

(Note: This question is answered by Guest Blogger, Martha Wiles. Martha is an encore bridal specialist and wedding planner with A Splash of Elegance.)  Martha replies:  Many times the bride and/or the groom just have too many people who are close to them and who love them, so they do not have a Maid or Matron of Honor, or in some cases a Best Man. They have attendants who stand with them on their wedding day. Great questions create a need to ask a few more details - like, is there a Matron and Maid of Honor being listed in the program? Are you going to have a program? Do you have a Best Man in mind? Most likely both of your sons will understand they are your sons and you may have another person for the Best Man position. Talk with them about who is going to be your Best Man and how they can be helpful to you in other ways.